Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Dilemma of a conflict

There are two sides to a conflict -

  1. It's  hard to get anything without a fight - Baby gets the milk when he cries. In a way it is also the best way (not getting into the medical science of it)
  2. The conflict leads to nowhere, people build higher and higher walls, or the negativity begets more negativity,
To speak up or to shut up is a decision that has perplexed me many a times over the years. Most of my well wishers have always advised me to shut up than speak up. Most of "non well wishers" have used my words to attack my character than the thought. There are very few people who can have a meaningful and objective discussion while holding conflicting views.

Conflicts many a times help in churning, which is sometimes needed to separate the butter and water from the cream. However if you want a to have fruit cream, it does not make sense to churn. Life is never about right/wrong, Black/white, but a lot in between. The many shades of grey between black and white.

I again remember this story by swami Vivekananda . Last blogged about this story in 2007, when i read it for first time. Wish more people read and try to understand the message


Prashant Bhardwaj said...

Bhai mere saath to you are expected to speak up :) rather than shut up! :)

and I believe being able to understand when to speak and more importantly "how" is a critical thing! most of us have the right intent, however the choice of words could mess up the message! I go through the struggle a lot of times, and specially since the time I have starting giving some training, I have become careful of my choice of words, and it has helped in the overall sense of it!

but by the way were you expecting someone to speak up? :P

Ankur Gupta said...

Words don't matter if the person wants to just hear a "YES". However when u say yes, u r termed as stupid. Still stupid is more acceptable.

Manendra said...

Keep Hitting the wall or stay where we are. Those 2 cannot be the only solutions to a problem. Every problem can be solved as long as we keep a positive attitude and don't give up.

Ankur Gupta said...

Indecision is also a decision, was what Narasimha rao taught the nation. WHile a wall may give you a chance to wait, a conflict is something that requires a decision.

Manendra said...

Agreed. The Indian way :)